Talking about sex is a natural, healthy thing to do, especially when it’s with your partner. That being said, a third of UK adults struggle to speak to the people they’re intimate with about sex, which is a frightening statistic.
Without being open and honest about what you want, like, and don’t like, you might find yourself in uncomfortable and even potentially dangerous situations.
It might seem like a big hurdle to start talking about your sex life, either with your partner or anyone, but there are loads of benefits to talking about sex, so it could have a positive effect on your wellbeing.
Whether you’re embarrassed because you’re not used to talking about sex, or you just get weirded out by it for no particular reason, you should still try your best to improve your confidence using these tips.
Understand Your Fears
Before you can overcome your issues with talking about sex, you need to understand what it is you’re actually worried about and why you avoid talking about the subject. It could be an embarrassing experience you had in the past, or something you were told when you were younger. Whatever the issue, knowing what it is and understanding it is key, so take the time to think about why you don’t like talking about sex and what the underlying reasons are.
Speak To A Neutral Party
Sometimes, it can be easier to practice talking about sex with a neutral party before you start speaking to the people you know and love. Try using phone sex lines to practice talking openly about sex with someone who is used to discussing the subject. There are numerous adult chat lines out there that will allow you to speak to women who understand and can help guide you through the process of becoming more familiar with talking about sex.
Start Slowly
Once you start talking to people you know about sex, you need to ease yourself into it. Begin with your romantic partner, and start by talking about easy topics, like things you enjoy doing in bed. You can start by using generic terms and keeping the conversation short, so that you don’t find yourself feeling overwhelmed. As you become more confident talking about sex, you can start having longer chats and moving on to new topics you weren’t confident with before.
Find A Therapist
In some extreme cases, a sex therapist might be able to help you deal with your fear and stop your small issues becoming a major phobia of talking about sex. A sex therapist covers a wide range of topics, and whatever your issue might be, they’ll have definitely heard something comparable! So, you won’t need to feel like your issues are weird or unusual- they won’t be anything they haven’t dealt with before. Sex therapists are mental health experts, so they can ensure that you get tailored support that helps identify your problems and gives you manageable techniques to deal with them.
Sex is an important part of life, so you need to start talking about it. Use these tips to help you improve your ability to speak about sex and feel more comfortable with the terminology that can keep you safe and satisfied.